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This CNN article explains how divorcees tend to have more health problems than people who were never divorced. And that being remarried solves a lot of those problems, because
Married women have more financial security, which means better access to health care and reduced stress, Waite said.
“Married men have better health habits,” she said in comparison to single males. “They lead a cleaner, healthier life, and less times in bars and eat better. Women tend to manage men’s interactions with the medical system, get him in for colonoscopy and make sure they get flu shot.”
You know, because women do all the cleaning, and men make all the money. And women micromanage. And without women around, men don’t know how to take care of themselves. Meanwhile,
Those who did not remarry after a divorce or a spouse’s death showed deficits in mental and physical health. Waite called this the “double whammy” because they don’t get the protective effects of marriage and have gone through a “damaging, health-destroying experience.”
Where to begin! First of all, there’s absolutely no mention of same sex relationships, so the gender stereotypes abound.
Furthermore, I’m a product of divorced parents. And you know what? Divorce was great for my family. If my parents never got divorced, I don’t think I’d be nearly as well-adjusted or confident as I am – and I know my mom wouldn’t be nearly as happy and independent. My parents needed divorce in order to keep on living. So I’m bound to take issue with this article. And hey – what about abusive relationships? Does losing that financial security matter if you’re getting your life back? Autonomy? NO! Your health will suffer!
And if we start talking about abusive relationships, this article completely fails – in an abusive relationship, you won’t get those all-important “protective effects of marriage” in the first place. and the “double whammy” might not seem so bad, because the “damaging, health-destroying experience” was your marriage, not your divorce.
Sigh. Maybe the divorce rate rising isn’t an indicator that people are giving up or that marriages are less happy overall – maybe it’s just that people are more able and ready to get out of a shitty situation. And that’s something to be celebrated.


